"Inch n Cubes": "Happiness is the source of all unhappiness"

"Inch n Cubes": "Happiness is the source of all unhappiness": I was in the mall other day, and saw a woman wearing a T-Shirt, it was covered in quotes (later which I learned to be part of their manifes...

"Happiness is the source of all unhappiness"

I was in the mall other day, and saw a woman wearing a T-Shirt, it was covered in quotes (later which I learned to be part of their manifesto) — but the one that stuck out most to me was;

“The pursuit of happiness is the source of all unhappiness”

I wish someone would have told me this, as bluntly and directly, when I was younger. The world in which we live, is based on the preconceived notion that you need things, or status, or anything but what you already have — in order to be happy. This is just one hugeeeeeeeee big fat lie. In college was when I truly fell victim to this false belief. Towards the end of school I began to realize that not only was pursuing happiness running me ragged, I had no idea what I really defined as my own happiness. Not only amongst me and my friends, was their competing ideals of happiness — but the media was/is constantly jamming advertisements into my head of what is happiness. From major companies it is clear to see that everywhere, everyone wants you to feel like they have the key to end your “pursuit of happiness”.


The reality is, nobody has that key but you. We all have the ability to be happy. It doesn't come from people, places or things. It’s a choice and a mindset that takes effort everyday. It’s not an end destination as the term “pursuit of happiness” implies, it’s a lifestyle. Happiness does not mean there will never be a bad day, troubling situation, or upsetting circumstance ever again in your life, but it means understanding that those situations, do not have to steal your joy. Your happiness is yours, it is created and destroyed by you. It is as real or as fleeting as you choose to allow it to be.


If you don’t know where to start in finding your happiness, there are a million things to do. I am still struggling to find out, Today I began my journey, I started first with my Personal Journal — and will write 5 things daily that I am grateful for, no matter how large or how small. I will spend time not worrying about “things” that I needed to be happy, but what I could do to help others be happy. Whether it is donating clothing, volunteering or just smiling at random strangers as I walked by, I did it — and I found that it helped me be happy too. I became some what of “hippy” if you will, and I got lost in my faith and reconnected to the idea that life is soo much bigger and means soo much more than the here and now in a materialistic sense. When I focused on these aspects, my thoughts and mindset began to change, and a balance returned to my life. I realized you cannot be positive with a negative mind. I realized I was actually happy.


So if you ever again find yourself wondering where your happiness went — just remember to realize that true happiness lies with you, and remember “People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.”– Abraham Lincoln

Tetris Of Life

Have you ever played Tetris? Yeah, I know it’s such a classic game and who wouldn’t have played it. Well, the reason why I’m asking this is that I currently feel that I’m in a huge Tetris game and I’m almost near the top. Could you relate to the feeling that you are near to having your game over and poof! Four lines were removed? What a relief, right? Well, imagine that the whole clutter of bricks gone in an instant… fantastic, right?


To be honest, I’ve been under a lot of pressure and stress lately. I actually don’t know if I’m just fine or if I am just too convinced that I’m fine even if I’m not. And so, the reason why I’m writing this is for me to really see what bothers me. Or well at least have it all laid out. We, human beings, have the tendency to not really think of the things that hurt us and just resort to shrugging it off for that moment and thus when the pressure all comes together, that human being would explode… and this, my friends, is what I think I’m going through right now. I’m almost there at the top and I’m about to cry game over.As most of my friends and family know that I’ve been unemployed since February and I am now currently self-employed in my own business together with my dear friend Maybs, I am really under the pressure and stress of making money to suffice my daily expenses as a young adult. Well, I am so happy that we started smoothly and that even if some challenges started to pop up, we were able to shut them down immediately just like the pop up ads in the net. Anyway, I guess this financial aspect of my life is just a level 1 for the stress scale.

Voice....."From a Notebook"

So. Here I am again, posting after a really dark spell. I’ve changed my mind about this entry, after sitting down to start writing it. I was going to write some clever and urbane thoughts about getting past a bout of depression and how my personality type is interacting with the uncertain period of life I’m swimming in and other stuff that makes me sound smart and analytical and together, like I’ve overcome a challenge and aren’t I grand? Listen to me, because I’ve got important things to say.
I changed my mind. I’m not going to do that.
Last evening I took myself to bed in the early evening, physically and mentally finished (immediately after I posted yesterday’s entry, in fact). I didn’t realize it consciously, but I needed silence and rest, and time to let my heart be what it was and feel what was in there to be felt. After a while, not sleeping but being quiet, I pulled out my scribbledy notebook, my journaling/note-taking/write-stuff-here-whenever notebook, and wrote some stuff. Several pages worth of what was in me to say. I opened it back up this morning, sitting with my computer and getting ready to write, and read what I had written about myself.
The following are direct excerpts from what I wrote in my scribbledy notebook, unedited except for clarity and to protect the innocent (marked with brackets). This isn’t me, clever. It’s me, real. I’m offering it in hopes that it will enable someone else to be themself, real. To maybe not feel as alone in the midst of confusion and depression and hurt. Because someone else has experienced those things too.
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“I’m tired. I don’t know why. I just am. I don’t want to have to justify myself in order to have permission to feel bad.
“I don’t wanna need permission to feel bad. To be depressed. To be sad. I would like for it to be just accepted for what it is and move on. I would like for that to be true of me, for me [toward myself] too. To be able to accept it as a state of being that just is and is temporary and to let it pass through me as long as it needs to and then go. And not to try to cling to it or to push it away and struggle.
“I would like for it not to be a cause for comment among my family and friends — to be able to just ask for help with what I need, and the why not to be dwelt on. And then to be able to give them my thanks and we all just move on.”
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“I don’t want to get stuck here, but I don’t want to have to feel like I have to fight either, like I’m even more wrong if I’m not fighting with my mood. Right now what I want is to rest. Just rest. For it to be legitimate to just rest. To have enough space and grace to rest in. For time to leave me alone for a while.”
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“Do your work, and then you get a rest. Don’t be sad. Just get on with it. Don’t be confused. You should know how to do this. You should see more of the world. You should notice more. You should understand more. You shouldn’t be afraid. At least, not a crippling fear. You should very calmly and rationally work through this and come to a logical conclusion that can be steadily worked at until successful. There might be some problems on the way, but you should be able to work them out if you don’t get upset and keep working at it.
“Yeah. Should. Whatever.”
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“I don’t know what I’m capable of. I don’t know what’s the right size of challenge to take on next.”
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“I [really badly] want for everything to be settled and decided, so I treat my day to day ideas as The Thing, and present it that way to other people. And then it feels catastrophic when the next piece of information wrecks it. I’m really not okay with living with uncertainty. And it takes so much energy every time I have to wrench my mind/heart onto something different. I feel like an idiot telling people ‘sorry, no, changed my mind. Pay no attention to my OMG CERTAINTY, I was wrong.’ And then do it again and again. I don’t want to do it anymore.”
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“I’m glad to have the chance to write this stuff down…. I feel like I’m going to get my energy back. Like this quieted space is a rest and not doom. I feel my spirits lift as the words flow over the page. My spirit is calmer and lighter. I will move on. For the first time in two days, I feel like I will move on from here.”

" My Resignation "

I'm certainly sick of trying to please people and i also retired myself from FB, so I hereby state that the only person I'm going to please is myself. Why didn't I think of this from the start? Fuck trying to win peoples hearts over with my amusing/sarcastic/clever/and even arrogant charm, you can come to me instead of me coming to you. If you want my attention so badly, then come here, stand in my way and demand it. These days I'm losing faith in everyone, no one particularly stands out anymore -- you're all the fucking same.
Dare to prove me wrong.

Friendship into Relationship....

A relationship can often grow from a friendship due to mixed feelings and the fact that buddy and a partner are kind of close in their  link to you anyway. However it’s not always a good move and could ruin a great friendship or at least make things awkward for a long time.

Friendship and intimate relationships are both equally important in life and sometimes you may want to hold onto that friendship and leave the intimacy out of it, especially if you are very close to each other. If you know anything and everything, all the gory details of each others lives and previous relationships, health issues, troubles and whats not then be careful. Anyway lets look at some tips before taking that leap.

Be sure you are not confusing feelings – Love comes in many forms and friendship is one of those. In hard times a friend may be there for you in every way possible and feelings can feel like they are really developing but you need to make sure this isn’t the troubles growing these thoughts. A friend is with you thick and thin and you should try and hold off until thin to really assess these feelings and make sure they are what you think they are.

Has this happened before? – It may not have been the first time you have hooked up or been close to hooking up. Did it cause problems and awkwardness before? What were the after feelings like and did you discuss the possibilities?

Have you both talked about it? – If you are very close then no feelings and thoughts should be off limits. Talk about it before jumping in. If the passion has already won out then talk it over and see if it was a mistake, just some fun or something that is possible to grow into a full on relationship.

What do your other friends say? – Have you discussed it with your other friends? Feelings and ideas feel different once shared so maybe cooping them up isn’t helping you make a good decision and your friends may help you clear things up. Maybe they were in a relationship before with another friend and act differently in such circumstances. They may be an awful partner but great friend.

Take things slow – You have likely been friends for a long time so what is the rush. Date slowly, ease into it and don’t go too far before finding out it will not work. The goal here is to preserve the friendship at all costs and put the intimate relationship second.

Try and date someone else! – I know this is odd advice but try and date someone else for a while and maybe tell them to do the same to see if you are still thinking of your friend all the time. It may not be fair on your date but you may meet your future partner and parent of your children or you may realise you are supposed to be with your friend!

+Friendship into Relationship, Your Advice?

At the end of the day your partner is often your best friend too, I know mine is and I am very lucky. I would like to think that if our relationship did ever end (which I hope it does not) that we could continue to be friends because she means a lot to me on all levels.

Have you ever dated a friend or come close? Are you in a long term relationship with someone who started as a friend and do you have any thoughts, tips or ideas to share?

Thanks for reading as always.

Switch to DunHill.....

New innovation of cigarette by Dunhill... Imagine, it’s just like an ice cream which you can mixed with other flavor... But now it’s a cigarette! As described on an store, “A Spicy, with a hint of sweetness, Dunhill Cigarettes do taste like real tobacco. Dunhill Cigarettes aroma is enticing and not spoiled by excessive use of various additives making Dunhill Cigarettes' taste a pure and recognizable one”  The at this instant they have this mixed blend of Spicy, sweetness and you can now switch it into a menthol flavor by smoking the same cigarette... Hi-Tech! Hehehehe...

Actually, the first thing that caught my attention of this cigarette is the package... As you can see packing and the design of each cigar... At the back you will see this instruction... Interesting!

So I bought it and tried, there is no difference about the taste from the Dunhill Blue which I usually smoked except when you switch it where suddenly you will taste the mentholated flavor...

This is what it looks like... A liquid menthol flavor packed on a small round blue green shell and when you pinch and pop it, the filter will absorbed the mentholated flavor which suddenly change the taste of the cigarette from a smooth taste into a cool menthol flavor... I remember my college days... A crazy joke that the head part of a matchstick inserted in the middle of a cigarette then ignite when heated... Hahahaha... I was also a victim of this silly joke...

Maybe there will be also different flavor coming out soon... Like strawberry, chocolate, mocha, etc.... Hehehehe... But always remember and as always warned us... Smoking is the main causes of fatal lung cancer, lung diseases, heart diseases and more... WTF! Stop Smoking! (I keep trying... But the sad thing is i cant quit...)