Complicacies in LOVE

“I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person, love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you.”

”valentine's day is coming up.

the holiday of lOoOoOoOve. i have always had mixed reviews on this holiday. i've had good years and bad years. last year's was a disaster.

but this is not what i want to talk about.

it just reminds me of gratefulness for what we have in general.

we shouldn't just need a holiday to acknowledge how we feel about someone else...

but people, in general, are ungrateful as a whole.

why, as people, are we so damn ungrateful? we always look for warning signs in other people as reasons not to be with them or be friends with them. why is this? to judge and say, oh no...i've got to get away from this one. which is understandable to a point. we don't want to surround ourselves with a bunch of weirdos with extreme issues.

what is wrong with flaws though? shouldn't we embrace the little things that make us not so perfect? instead of looking for warning signs, shouldn't we just enjoy each other? no one is fucking perfect. it's as though after we get burned, we don't allow ourselves to fully love another without keeping a guard up...and looking for reasons why this person is not good enough to keep around.

wake up. appreciate who you have. so what if your girlfriend takes 2 hours to get ready for everything? that your boyfriend plays his video games a little longer than you'd like? stop being so selfish and enjoy some quality time with your significant other before it's too late. he or she is not going to wait around for you to appreciate him or her forever. read the signals that they're not feeling wanted or appreciated anymore.

don't just show him you love him on valentine's day. make it more often. make it on a random day he doesn't expect. hey you, bring her some flowers on a day she wouldn't expect. write her a card for no reason. love and appreciate each other. do something nice even when you feel like things are on the rocks. how did you get there in the first place? probably from not taking care of things when you should have been. probably because he feels like you don't care anymore or she feels like you don't love her like you used to. probably because you are letting little things that shouldn't matter, old fights and burrowed resentment, cover up what made you fall in love in the first place.

stop being lazy. be appreciative. do the things you used to do when things are new. reignite your spark. a valentine's card once a year and a birthday present isn't all it takes to be a good boyfriend / girlfriends too. stop nagging.

remember the beginning and why it was so special...before any bullshit seeped in the cracks. there was obviously something that meant a lot to you to make you want to be with that person. don't forget what made them special. this will happen in relationships/marriages. don't let every day stress and worry take over completely. count your fucking blessings, my friends. be thankful for what you have and let bygones be bygones. happy valentine's day and love with every bit of your soul. :) go grab your man or woman and tell 'em they are special. like now. go.